Normal human psychosexual behavior is the result of the combined action of natural data and upbringing. Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish the quantitative and qualitative aspects of sexuality.
The quantitative, or energy, side of sexuality is measured by the strength, duration and frequency of sexual reactions. GS Vasilchenko, giving her a system description and interpretation, calls her “the sexual constitution of the individual”, which he defines as a set of stable biological properties that are formed under the influence of hereditary factors and conditions of development in the prenatal period and early ontogeny; the sexual constitution limits the range of individual needs at a certain level of sexual activity and characterizes the individual resistance to pathogenic factors that have selectivity in the sexual sphere.
Different types of constitution are defined in quantitative terms as “weak”, “medium”, “strong”. The concept of the sexual constitution is essential first of all in that it focuses on an individual approach, rather than trying to “shoe all people into shoes of the same size” and depends on many psycho-physiological and social factors, of which, unfortunately, we know very little.
In the early theories of sexuality, everything was simple. The amount of sexual energy was considered to be limited. German scientist O. Effertz in 1894 even “calculated” that each man has a “reserve” of 5,400 ejaculations. They gave about such a “schedule” for men: “If you are 20-30 years old, then it is necessary to have 3 intercourse a week; from 30 to 40 – 2 times; from 40 to 50 – 1 time and if you are more than 50 years old, then for the sake of health, you should have one intercourse in 10 days. ” The essence of this approach to a person’s sexual activity was the following: the earlier the sex life begins and the more intense, the sooner it ends with impotence, etc. The speculation of such calculations is quite obvious. The number of sexual acts and the frequency of sexual activity are largely determined by the sexual constitution.
If we take the quantitative side of the case (the frequency of sexual intercourse), then the greatest sexual activity is found by people under 30 years old. Wilson’s study, based on a survey of 911 men and 1370 female US residents, shows that sexual activity depends on age, gender, and even education. As an illustration of the age dynamics, one can cite the observations of Talleman-Doriot. In the house of one noble person in a certain sequence hung four tapestries. The first one depicted a young couple of 20 years in hot embraces, and below is a signature: “In a love game, brothers, I can play day and night!” On the second couple is more mature, about 30 years, and the inscription read: “From you, friends, I do not hide: when I want, then I play!”. On the third tapestry – a man and a woman at the age of about 40 years and the inscription: “And I, friends, from you can not hide, often busy this game!”. And, finally, on the fourth tapestry, an old man with an old woman with arms stretched to the sky was depicted, and the inscription read: “Oh my merciful creator, I’m no longer a gambler!” That’s about the end of the sexual activity of people. Reduction of sexual activity with age, of course, has its biological causes. However, there is evidence that about 15% continue it even after 80 years, although more than half of men and women stop their sex life for about 60 years. Data on the sexual activity of a group of older (over 60 years) men and women can be divided into 4 types:
- sexual activity is always absent (women – 74%, men – 27%);
- decreases (10% and 3 1%, respectively);
- remains (10% and 22%);
- grows (6% and 20%).
What explains these variations? Partly features of the sexual constitution and the individual conditioned-physiological rhythm developed on its basis. However, it is not a matter of one psychophysiology. Sexual activity of spouses depends not only on their sexual excitability, but also on the value they attach to this side of life, that is, what place in the hierarchy of values, along with other forms of self-realization (labor, communication, etc.) occupies this kind of human activity. This problem is very complicated. As an example, we can quote the words of a 60-year-old man who, at a reception after complaining about a reduction in erection, said: “If I do not get cured – why live?”, While a 30-year-old man in a similar situation remarked: “I will not be cured, it does not hurt . There will be more free time. ”
It is known that married people feel on average much more confident and happier than bachelors, and having children is better than childless. The combination of physical and spiritual intimacy harmonizes the emotional reactions of lovers, increases their empathy, which is manifested in the sexual sphere. Among the couples who were satisfied with marriage, almost everyone was sexually compatible, and only 63% were unsatisfied.
Although connected with the institutions of marriage and marriage, sexuality is still relatively autonomous from them. There are reliable data that sexual activity of spouses and interest in intimacy are reduced with their age and length of marriage. According to GDR scientists, the average frequency of sexual acts in the first year of marriage is 11 times a month, on the second – 9-10, and for experience from 4 to 10 years – 8-9 times. In the second year of matrimony, a certain disagreement between the desires of the husband and wife is found: many women show less interest in sex life than their husbands, which reduces the latter’s satisfaction with the sexual side of marriage, but there is no further decrease in the sexual satisfaction of men with a marital experience of 4 to 10 years . It seems that some rhythm is mutually acceptable for both spouses. Among 30-40-year-old spouses examined by Professor Lukeke Arezin (GDR), more than two thirds of men and less than a third of women expressed a desire for more intense sexual life.
In general, among women between 15 and 48 years of age, the frequency of sexual intercourse increases with age, but at a slowing pace; this corresponds to the traditional ideas about the growth of female sexual activity. In the East they say: “A woman under 30 is a wolf, after 40 – already a tigress”. The age of the husband on the frequency of sexual acts affects little, although a very small and slow decrease in sexual activity begins after 17 years. The longer the marriage, the less sexual intercourse becomes, but this process is not linear: in the first 2-3 years of marriage, sexual activity declines, then again grows first in accelerating, and then – between the 7th and the 6th year of marriage – at a decreasing rate. However, these processes may not be the same in different cohorts.
The average frequency of sexual intercourse among the polled British men was 2.5 per week.
Thus, we can say that modern man leads a more intense sex life than his ancestors. Improved nutrition contributes to increased sexual activity, and the crisis of traditional religious prohibitions and the emergence of effective contraceptives – more than before, the separation of sexually-erotic relationships from reproductive function.
The regulation of sexual activity was influenced and influenced by culture. In ancient China, for example, love was treated as necessary for physical and mental health, obtaining healthy offspring, achieving emotional balance, and also for strengthening the family. This is evidenced by the ancient Chinese treatise “Fan Zhong”, or “The Art of the Bedroom.” Three basic concepts separate “Tao of love” 1 from other sexual representations.
The first concept is that a man must find the correct order of ejaculation in accordance with his age and physical condition. This is what the ancient Chinese physician Sun-Su-Mo (581 BC) recommended: a male of 20 years can ejaculate once every 4 days, a 30-year-old once every 8 days, 40 years -1 times in 10 days, 50 years – 1 time every 20 days, and 60 years and older generally may not have ejaculations.
The second concept is relatively innovative. The ancient Chinese taught that ejaculation and orgasm for a man are not the same thing.
The third concept is related to the woman’s satisfaction. The essence of the Chinese philosophy of love was well noticed by Li-Tung-Xiang, a doctor of the 17th century. A man must develop the ability to delay ejaculation to the full satisfaction of a partner … A man must open and develop his own ideal frequency of ejaculation, and it should not exceed 2-3 times in 10 cases.
That is, a man can make love as many times a day or a week as he wishes, but the frequency of ejaculations should be regulated by his physical condition and age, and also depending on the season:
In the spring, a man can afford to ejaculate once every three days. In the summer and autumn – twice a month. Cold winter should protect the seed and not ejaculate at all.
According to the latest data, sexologists conclude that modern sexual intercourse has become not only more frequent, but also longer. If in the 1950’s. Its duration averaged 2 minutes, then in the 1980s it was already 10 minutes. On this account, there are different points of view: according to G. S. Vasilchenko, a normal act of sex can be considered an act lasting 1 minute, VI Zdravomyslov says about 4 minutes. In this case, we are talking about a temporary criterion for diagnosing premature ejaculation. The general opinion is the position of the ancient Chinese that a man should be able to conduct a sexual game involving not only frictions, to the full satisfaction of women, and there is no need to take into account the average statistical data.