If the ejaculation of a man has already begun, then no effort of will to stop it is impossible. But you can delay her offensive. For this, sexologists recommend several methods that can help to overcome premature ejaculation on their own.
First, there are special creams and “brake ointments” (dicainic, novocainic), which lubricates the glans penis, thereby reducing its sensitivity, and the excitement increases more slowly, and ejaculation is delayed. But the partner must always wear a condom, otherwise the ointment will reduce the sensitivity of female genital organs.
Secondly, a man, feeling that he is already very excited, can suspend frictions, wait a little, so that the excitement decreases slightly, and then resume them again. And so several times. But then the orgasm can be much more intense.
If this is not enough, and the man is afraid of the possibility of premature ejaculation, he must remove the penis from the woman’s vagina and, squeezing the head of the penis in the area of attachment of the foreskin and frenulum, wait out the excitement. It delays ejaculation. This technique is described in more detail in the chapter “How to learn to prolong sexual intercourse”.
Thirdly, if a man does not want to dedicate a partner to his problems and to postpone ejaculation directly during intercourse, he can train during masturbation (masturbation training). The principle is the same – when approaching orgasm, a man should press his fingers on the head in the area of the bridle and foreskin. Repeating this exercise many times, the man will learn to push back the time of ejaculation and prolong sexual intercourse.
Fourth, control over ejaculation and prolongation of sexual intercourse can be carried out, guided by the principles of the Tao of love, which are described in detail in the chapter “How to prolong sexual intercourse.”
Fifth, if the partners have a trusting relationship, then the partner can help to stop the ejaculation in the position “woman on top”, in any of her options – in the “little Faith” position or “rider’s pose”. To do this, a man should tell her that he feels an orgasm approaching. The woman suspends her movements up and down and sits for a while motionless, until the excitement of the partner diminishes. After that, it gradually begins to move back and forth, the type of “iron”, in which there is no strong friction of the glans penis on the wall of the vagina. During these movements, the woman enjoys herself.
When the erection of a man is restored, the partner moves to up and down movements using the muscles of the vagina and the orgasmic cuff. A man stimulates her clitoris, and in the “horsewoman” position, where she sits with her back to the partner’s face, the woman stimulates him.
Once the stimulation of the partner again approaches the critical level, he again gives the signal to the partner, and she again stops moving. And so it repeats several times, until a woman experiences an orgasm.
When you feel the approaching orgasm, a woman performs energetic frictions up and down, and the orgasm of partners can come at the same time.
If the excitement of a man is very strong, and with the presence of the penis in the vagina of a woman there is the possibility of ejaculation, then the partner completely breaks the contact of the genital organs and, sitting on the partner’s thighs, stops touching his penis.
Sixth, you can use the squeezing method proposed by William Masters and Virginia Johnson. He is also used in the position “a woman from above sitting.”
If the partner’s ejaculation is already close, and he says this to the woman, she is released from the penis and gently presses his head in the antero-posterior direction. When the excitement of a man falls slightly, the woman re-enters the penis into the vagina and continues the frictions. If the partner is not yet satisfied, and the partner again senses the approaching ejaculation, she again breaks the contact of the genital organs and repeats pressing the head of the partner’s penis.
This delay in ejaculation is one of the principles of sex therapy, recommended by many sexologists. It is used in sex therapy sessions for men with premature ejaculation. With such training a man learns to withstand prolonged stimulation without premature ejaculation.
With premature ejaculation, A. Bova and E. Savin are recommended to perform more frequent and repeated sexual acts, switch sexual attention from sexual stimuli to non-sexual ones during sexual intercourse, use a condom that reduces peripheral excitability.
But if a man for the first time in his life has turned out so that ejaculation, in addition to his will, came earlier than he wanted, and the partner has not yet experienced orgasm, then there is nothing terrible, if only he is an altruist, not a sexual egoist. In this case, if the partner’s erogenous zone is the clitoris, then it is possible to end the sexual act with caresses on the partner’s clitoris in any variant, which is more attractive for her – with her hand, finger, tongue or vibrator. A woman with a mixed vaginal-clitoric version of orgasm will get sexual satisfaction when combining any variant of the clitoral caresses with the stimulation of the vagina with the help of a phallometer. And henceforth, to prevent this from happening again, it is desirable for a man to use one of the above methods to prevent premature ejaculation.
In the case when premature ejaculation is an episodic phenomenon associated with psychological factors, the above methods will help overcome it. The main thing is that it does not become fixed and does not become stable. Then it will be harder to fight it.
If you manage to prevent it by one of the methods listed here, then do not fix it, and even more so, be afraid of its repetition. This can lead to undesirable consequences. Episodic cases of accelerated ejaculation can be completely overcome.
However, there are other cases where premature ejaculation has a persistent character and is observed with each sexual approach. In these cases, its causes can be of an organic nature. Such men should necessarily turn to a sex therapist, because there are many reasons for premature ejaculation, and only a specialist can establish the true cause and eliminate it. In addition to treatment, the sex therapist will recommend a set of special exercises, through which the man will learn to control himself, as well as family therapy sessions.